Marriage & Family

Emotional bullying and being a ‘loser’ in marriage

Posted by on Jun 28, 2013 in Marriage & Family, Relationships | 8 comments

Emotional bullying and being a ‘loser’ in marriage

Emotional bullying and being a ‘loser’ in marriage By: Yasmin Mogahed   A few weeks ago, an article was widely circulated about a woman whose husband told her he was leaving and she decided to ‘ignore’ him (and his feelings) until they magically disappeared (See: http://theweek.com/article/index/99512/the-last-word-he-said-he-was-leaving-she-ignored-him#) . As I read the article, I did something different. Instead of putting myself in *her* shoes, I put myself in his. What I discovered was disturbing at best… What’s wrong with what she did? The rhetoric and ‘technique’ was...

Read More

Islam Does Not Accept Domestic Abuse

Posted by on Mar 20, 2012 in Domestic Affairs, Family, Islamic Matters, Journal, Marriage & Family, Prophet Muhammad, Relationships, Spouse, Yasmin's Online Journal | 3 comments

To those who tell you to be silent and have ‘patience’ about abuse, know that the Prophet (pbuh) said:”Help your brother if he is an oppressor or oppressed.” A man said, “Messenger of Allah, I can help him if he is oppressed but tell me how I can help him if he is the oppressor?” He said, “Prevent him from oppressing. That is helping him.” [Sahih Bukhari]

Read More

This is Love

Posted by on Jan 3, 2012 in Before Marriage, Family, Featured, Gender Relations, Marriage & Family, Men, Personal Development, Reflections, Relationships, Spiritual Purification, Spirituality, Spouse, With the Divine, Women | 86 comments

This is Love

This is love. And so there are some who spend their whole lives seeking. Sometimes giving, sometimes taking. Sometimes chasing. But often, just waiting. They believe that love is a place that you get to: a destination at the end of a long road. And they can’t wait for that road to end at their destination. They are those hearts moved by the movement of hearts. Those hopeless romantics, the sucker for a love story, or any sincere expression of true devotion. For them, the search is almost a lifelong obsession of sorts. But, this tragic ‘quest’ can have its costs—and its’ gifts. The...

Read More

Empowerment of Women Speech

Posted by on Dec 12, 2011 in Before Marriage, Featured, Marriage & Family, Men, Personal Development, Relationships, Spirituality, With the Divine, Women | 73 comments

Empowerment of Women Speech

When the companion of the Prophet, pbuh, entered a town to bring them the message of Islam, he put it very beautifully. He said, “I have come to free you from the servitude of the slave and bring you to the servitude of the Lord of the slave.” Within this statement lies a powerful treasure. Locked within these words, is the key to empowerment and the only real path to liberation. You see, the moment you or I allow anything, other than our Creator, to define our success, our failure, our happiness, or our worth, we have entered into a silent, but destructive form of slavery. That thing...

Read More

A Reflection on Love

Posted by on Dec 1, 2011 in Before Marriage, Featured, Journal, Marriage & Family, Other, Parents, Poetry & Fiction, Quotes, Reflections, Relationships, Spiritual Purification, Spirituality, Spouse, With the Divine, Yasmin's Online Journal | 12 comments

A Reflection on Love

By: Yasmin Mogahed All of this love. Every piece. Every part of all the love in this world. The love they make poems with. The love of spellbinding novel. The love in songs. The love they tried to capture in a movie. The love of a mother for her child, of a child for her father. The love that liberates. The love that enslaves. The love you win. The love you lose. The love you chase. The love you live for. The love you know you’d die for. The love that makes men bleed. The love that swords have killed for.  The love of fairytales and tragedy. It is all just a reflection. An echo. Of one...

Read More

For the Love of the Gift

Posted by on Nov 13, 2011 in Before Marriage, Belief & Worship, Featured, Marriage & Family, Overcoming Hardships, Personal Development, Relationships, Spiritual Purification, Spirituality, Uncategorized, With the Divine | 40 comments

For the Love of the Gift

We all love gifts. We love the blessings that beautify our lives. We love our children, our spouses, our parents, our friends. We love our youth and we love our health. We love our homes, our cars, our money, our beauty. But what happens when a gift becomes more than just a gift? What happens when a want becomes a need, a favor becomes a dependency? What happens when a gift is no longer only that? What is a gift? A gift is something that did not come from us. A gift is given—and can be taken. We are not the original owners of a gift. A gift is also not necessary for our survival. It comes...

Read More