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Removing the Intruder: On Treating Love Addictions

Posted by on Jun 21, 2012 in Before Marriage, Featured, Overcoming Hardships, Personal Development, Reflections, Relationships, Spiritual Purification, Spirituality, With the Divine | 40 comments

Removing the Intruder: On Treating Love Addictions

Removing the Intruder: On Treating Love Addictions By: Yasmin Mogahed Every created thing yearns to fulfill its’ purpose. The eyes yearn to see. The ears yearn to hear. The stomach yearns to eat. The heart yearns to love. And inside every one of us is a created thing. It is a gigantic mass. It is a mass of affection, loyalty, and devotion. And it was created with a purpose. It was created to be given. But it was made to be given in a very specific way, to a very specific place. What we chose to do—or not do—with this heavy mass, determines our state in this life and the next. The drive...

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On treating broken hearts (love addictions)

Posted by on Apr 15, 2012 in Before Marriage, Featured, Gender Relations, Personal Development, Reflections, Relationships, Spiritual Purification | 90 comments

On treating broken hearts (love addictions)

If you are trying to get over a person you can’t be with, treat it like an addiction: 1. Cut yourself off from the drug completely: Cut off all communication and reminders–even if that means blocking numbers, emails, a Facebook profile, and stop checking their Facebook! This is your detox. 2. Replace it with something better: Increase in your thikr (remembrance of Allah) and get closer to Allah. If you aren’t praying your daily prayers, fix that. Pray all and pray on time. Pray qiyam in the last third of the night (just before fajr). Make duaa, tawbah (repentance), cry,...

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A Reflection on Pain

Posted by on Apr 13, 2012 in Before Marriage, Featured, Overcoming Hardships, Personal Development, Reflections, Relationships, Spirituality | 3 comments

A Reflection on Pain

It’s easy to minimize a person’s hurt without understanding the nature of pain. People often like to categorize how much a person should or shouldn’t hurt about things. For example, when someone is upset about something, they say, “At least you’re not paralyzed, or starving in Africa.” While it’s imperative to be grateful for what we have, I think people often mistaken the nature of pain, when they ‘categorize’ in this way. A relationship break up can hurt more than struggling with cancer (true story). The criteria for how much something...

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Houston Illumination Speech

Posted by on Mar 10, 2012 in Before Marriage, Featured, Gender Relations, Islamic Matters, Spiritual Purification, Spirituality, With the Divine | 33 comments

Houston Illumination Speech

A speech I gave at a conference in Houston on March 10, 2012 (my birthday):   A few years ago today—we wont talk about how many years—but a few years ago today, I was born. And while a lot of people get into the theological debate about celebrating or not celebrating birthdays, I want to step outside of that for a moment. And look at something else. Some time ago, I had a realization. As young people, and then not so young people, many spend their birthdays waiting for people to celebrate them. As children they can’t wait to receive gifts and get heartbroken if someone forgets to...

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Fall in Love with the Real Thing

Posted by on Mar 1, 2012 in Before Marriage, Featured, Personal Development, Relationships, Spiritual Purification, Spirituality, With the Divine | 81 comments

Fall in Love with the Real Thing

  Fall in Love with the Real Thing It’s never easy to let go. Or is it? Most of us would agree that there are few things harder than letting go of what we love. And yet, sometimes that’s exactly what we have to do. Sometimes we love things that we can’t have. Sometimes we want things that are not good for us. And sometimes we love what Allah does not love. To let go of these things is hard. Giving up something the heart adores is one of the hardest battles we ever have to fight. But what if it didn’t have to be such a battle? What if it didn’t have to be so hard? Could there...

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This is Love

Posted by on Jan 3, 2012 in Before Marriage, Family, Featured, Gender Relations, Marriage & Family, Men, Personal Development, Reflections, Relationships, Spiritual Purification, Spirituality, Spouse, With the Divine, Women | 86 comments

This is Love

This is love. And so there are some who spend their whole lives seeking. Sometimes giving, sometimes taking. Sometimes chasing. But often, just waiting. They believe that love is a place that you get to: a destination at the end of a long road. And they can’t wait for that road to end at their destination. They are those hearts moved by the movement of hearts. Those hopeless romantics, the sucker for a love story, or any sincere expression of true devotion. For them, the search is almost a lifelong obsession of sorts. But, this tragic ‘quest’ can have its costs—and its’ gifts. The...

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