Islamic Character

Why do people have to leave each other?

Posted by on Nov 13, 2011 in Brotherhood & Sisterhood, Featured, Islamic Character, Overcoming Hardships, Reflections, Spiritual Purification, Spouse | 85 comments

Why do people have to leave each other?

Why Do People Have to Leave Each Other? Part I | Part II When I was 17 years old, I had a dream. I dreamt that I was sitting inside a masjid and a little girl walked up to ask me a question. She asked me: “Why do people have to leave each other?” The question was a personal one, but it seemed clear to me why the question was chosen for me. . I was one to get attached. . Ever since I was a child, this temperament was clear. While other children in preschool could easily recover once their parents left, I could not. My tears, once set in motion, did not stop easily. As I grew up, I...

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Defining Manhood: The Facade of Being “Hard”

Posted by on Jan 18, 2011 in Gender Relations, Islamic Character, Men, Spouse | 19 comments

Last week my sister called.  She has been studying abroad since summer began, so naturally I was thrilled to hear from her.  After hearing how she was, I asked about her new home.  With her living in a Muslim country, I felt assured that everything would be fine.  For that reason, what she described next was a complete shock.  She began to describe a place where a girl can hardly leave her house without being verbally harassed by men walking by.  She said that the catcalling was no longer the exception; it had become the rule. Then she told me about a Muslim girl she knew.  The girl...

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The Essence of Islam: Are We Missing the Point?

Posted by on Oct 25, 2010 in Community (Ummah), Islamic Character, Personal Development, Reflections | 16 comments

To some, a Monet is only a collection of dots. To others, it is a perfect masterpiece. To some, Islam is nothing but a code of rules and regulations. But, to those who understand, it is a perfect vision of life. As Muslims, we often focus so much on Islam’s dos and don’ts that we miss the bigger picture. Islam came to perfect our manners, and yet we are willing to scream and shout to win an argument about moon sighting or zabiha meat. Islam came to increase us in humility and yet while we wear our beards and hijabs, we look down on others. Islam came to establish a community of...

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The Lesson Taught by a Rose

Posted by on Mar 15, 2010 in Islamic Character, Islamic Studies, Overcoming Hardships, Reflections, Spiritual Purification | 11 comments

Roses have long been been my favorite flower. I’m always struck by how perfect they are—for a moment. But in that moment, and even more so the moments that follow, roses have taught me an invaluable lesson. And I don’t mean a lesson in botany or horticulture. I mean a lesson in life. What happens to the rose’s perfectly defined petals even days after it blooms? What becomes of the brilliant red that makes a rose breathtakingly beautiful? Those petals wither. That brilliant red turns brown. And the rose that was once so full of beauty and life turns into dried up scraps that crumble...

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