Posts by Yasmin Mogahed

The Search for Love

Posted by on Feb 12, 2014 in Featured, Personal Development, Relationships, Spirituality, With the Divine | 14 comments

The Search for Love

I spent my life running after the creation. I have always been what you might call ‘needy’. I needed friends, I needed people. All the time. And I couldn’t handle letdowns. But at the heart of what makes us run after the creation, is simply love. The need to give and receive love. This need has been put in us by the Creator. And every need created by God, has been created for a purpose. The need to give and receive love was created as a driver. A driver that pushes us back to God. You see, we began with God, and God wants us to come back to Him in this life—even before we come back to...

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Emotional bullying and being a ‘loser’ in marriage

Posted by on Jun 28, 2013 in Marriage & Family, Relationships | 8 comments

Emotional bullying and being a ‘loser’ in marriage

Emotional bullying and being a ‘loser’ in marriage By: Yasmin Mogahed   A few weeks ago, an article was widely circulated about a woman whose husband told her he was leaving and she decided to ‘ignore’ him (and his feelings) until they magically disappeared (See: http://theweek.com/article/index/99512/the-last-word-he-said-he-was-leaving-she-ignored-him#) . As I read the article, I did something different. Instead of putting myself in *her* shoes, I put myself in his. What I discovered was disturbing at best… What’s wrong with what she did? The rhetoric and ‘technique’ was...

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About a personal struggle I had as a teen

Posted by on Jun 18, 2013 in Featured, Journal, Overcoming Hardships, Personal Development, Yasmin's Online Journal | 5 comments

About a personal struggle I had as a teen

Picking up the Wrong Ball By: Yasmin Mogahed   Everyone has problems. At least that’s what my 7th grade teacher told us. He asked us to imagine rolling up all our problems into a ball and throwing that ball on a pile filled with the problems of all other people. He then argued to us that-given a choice-each and every one of us would choose our own ball over all others. Although I was too young then to understand his metaphor fully, I knew that everyone had problems. And I was no different. Growing up, depression became a natural part of my life. Throughout middle school and into high...

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Finding Jennah

Posted by on Apr 3, 2013 in Featured, Overcoming Hardships, Personal Development, Reflections, Spiritual Purification, Spirituality, With the Divine | 0 comments

Finding Jennah

I have spent a lot of my life trying to reconcile between hardship and ease. On the one hand, we are told again and again that the straight path is not easy and requires struggle and sacrifice. But on the other hand, as humans we always desire ease. What I have come to realize is that the path will always have challenges, tests and trials. There will be hardships and there will be storms. But, if Allah wills, you can be given ease *within* the hardship. The one who finds refuge in Allah, remains dry—even during the most powerful storm. Outside, it may be raining, but inside the refuge of...

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The Lifetime of a Hardship

Posted by on Feb 20, 2013 in Featured, Quranic Reflections, Reflections, Yasmin's Online Journal | 5 comments

The Lifetime of a Hardship

Allah tell us in the Quran that for all things He has created an “appointed term’. This includes our hardships and struggles. They all have a birth and a death. They all have an appointed term. Every situation in our life has an appointed term, after which they come to an end and/or change. There have been a few periods of my life when this particular ayah has comforted me so much. It is ‘simple’, but so profound: “And be patient for the decision of your Lord, for indeed you are in Our eyes.” (52:48) So many powerful lessons: 1. Allah has your situation...

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